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Nurture · Play · Structure
A Therapeutic Model
The Relationship Triangle and What Your TMER Reveals
Most of us can describe the relationship we want. Fewer of us can describe the relationship we are actually building — day by day, choice by choice. The NPS Relationship Triangle is a simple tool for closing that gap. It has three corners: I, YOU, and WE. Who you are in the relationship. Who your partner is in the relationship. And who the two of you are together. A healthy relationship keeps all three alive. Most struggling relationships are not missing love. They are missin
Exploring Nurture Play and Structure in Relationship Contracting for Non-Monogamy
Opening a relationship can be both exciting and challenging. Many people who choose ethical non-monogamy or polyamory start by setting strict rules, focusing on boundaries and structure. This often leads to feelings of restriction and frustration. A more balanced approach begins with understanding the emotional needs of all partners, exploring joy and connection, and then creating agreements that support those needs. This post explores how Nurture, Play, and Structure form th
NPS Basics: Understanding the Need for Balance
In exploring the concepts of Nurture, Play, and Structure (NPS), one of the most important takeaways is the idea of balance—and more specifically, the order in which these elements are meant to exist in our lives. The NPS Chart: An Introduction offers a simple yet powerful framework that helps us better understand ourselves, our relationships, and how we interact with the world. Why Order Matters: Nurture → Play → Structure The sequence of Nurture, Play, and Structure is n
Understanding the NPS Bridge Model for Better Communication
Effective communication often feels like walking a tightrope between connection and conflict. The NPS Bridge Model offers a clear way to navigate this delicate balance by helping us understand how to maintain healthy boundaries in conversations. This model emphasizes the importance of staying on our own side of the bridge rather than crossing over into someone else’s emotional space. Crossing that bridge, even with good intentions, can unintentionally increase tension and con
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